God Said It, But Did He Really Mean It for Me… The Dangerous Mindset that Hinders Faith

I just want to start by saying that I was completely overwhelmed by the response to Friday’s post, “A Call to the Noble Wife… Are You Living Up to Your Potential?”  I have been so blessed and touched that God allowed me to share a tough realization in my own life and in turn, touch so many others.  So, thank you!

Now, on to today’s post.

faith, hindering faith, thinking, God said itLast night during our lifegroup, someone said something that really made me stop and think.

He said that baby Christians tend to ride along on a “spiritual high” for a while but then when something bad happens they come crashing down.

Let me frame the conversation a bit.

We were discussing last week’s sermon from church where our Pastor was debunking a commonly accepted belief that God will never give you more than you can handle.  The gist of the sermon was that God NEVER said He wouldn’t give us more than we can handle, but He DID say “In this world you will have trouble.  But take heart!  I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

You can watch the entire sermon here, by clicking on week 2: God won’t give you more than you can handle.

So, I thought a lot about this idea of baby Christians riding on a “spiritual high,” and I see so much truth to it.

When I was a baby Christian (not too very long ago) I totally coasted on my own spiritual high.  I had just made the greatest decision of my life and I was soaking up every good and perfect gift that came with it.

After  a short time though, I kind of started to act invincible and looking back now I realize I had become a little jaded.  I was convinced that people who were dealing with problems in life just didn’t have enough faith and weren’t believing in God’s Word.  AWFUL, I know, but its true.

I had become wise in my own eyes and it was pretty ugly.

Then, life happened to me…

I was pregnant with our second child and the unthinkable happened.


So what did I do?  At first, I just bought into the lie that God never gives me more than I can handle so I better just deal with it, whatever that looked like.  I felt like I better just start acting like a good and happy little Christian girl and move past it.  So for me, I rationalized that there must have been something wrong with the baby and God took it away to save me from something worse.

That’s a COMPLETE LIE fed by the enemy by the way!!!  God is the giver of life; the thief comes to steal, to kill, and to destroy.

The danger of thinking like that for me was that it gave me permission to question God.

It set me up in the perfect position to always second guess what God said.  [bctt tweet=”Is toxic thinking “giving you permission” to question God? #TrustTheWord #GodsNotALiar”]

So, instead of having the kind of faith that says, “God said it so I believe it no matter what,”  I had the kind of non-faith that said, “God said it, but I’m not sure if He meant that for me…”

I began to experience challenges of every kind and then I began to think that maybe I wasn’t good enough to receive God’s promises, or maybe I just wasn’t doing the “Christian thing” right.

Well, let me tell you some good news



It doesn’t matter if you think you’re not good enough, God is good enough.

It doesn’t matter if you think you don’t deserve it, God will pour out blessings and favor because that’s His nature.

Don’t you know you can never make yourself good enough to be accepted by God?  You are freely accepted because He is good.

That’s good news!

Thankfully, in my life, I had some very strong, mature Christians all around me who were willing to put up with my uninformed misunderstanding of God’s Word.  The Bible makes it clear that baby Christians are like infants who need to be fed “milk” for a while before they are ready for “solid food.”  The more I grow in the Lord, the more thankful I am for those people who quietly listened to me spout nonsense in the name of the Lord, and  still chose to keep feeding into my life instead of abandoning me in my immaturity.

So how do we keep young believers from falling into this dangerous trap?

Sometimes I believe it’s important for us as mature believers to show our weakness instead of putting on our “everything is great” face. We do need to stand strong in faith, believing in the goodness of God’s word and speaking it over our lives, but if we never allow others to see our struggles, how can they truly understand our growth?  After all, it’s in our weakness that He is made strong.

Paul says it best in 2 Corinthians when talking about the thorn in his flesh that he pleaded with God to have removed…

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”  Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.  That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties.  For when I am weak, then I am strong.

If we never show the world our weakness, how can they see His strength?  [bctt tweet=”If we never show the world our weakness, how can they see His strength? #WhenIAmWeakThenIAmStrong”]

If we only show the world our blessings, they are missing out on understanding the faith that came before the blessing.

Faith is not for the faint of heart, it’s about believing that God’s word is right and true and acting on that truth no matter how hard.   In some cases our blessings come quickly and sometimes our blessings come only after enduring a long trial and standing firm in the faith.

When we allow those around us see us struggle and yet hold on to the promises of God, it is then that they are truly blessed by our patient endurance.

Final thoughts…

Hosea 4:6 says, “my people are destroyed from lack of knowledge.”  

Just think about that.  If those mature Christians in my life had abandoned me in my time of growth, I would have been DESTROYED from my own lack of knowledge!

Thank the Lord they hung in there with me!

If you are a baby Christian, be encouraged! I urge you to surround yourself with mature believers and always be willing to listen.  You will grow by leaps and bounds and will one day suddenly find yourself on the flip side, able to mentor other young believers.

If you are a mature Christian, then I implore you, don’t abandon those young believers in your life.  Hang in there with them, give them more grace, pray for them, pray with them, and above all, let them see you hold tightly to the truth of God’s Word while you are in the midst of the battlefield!!

“I would have fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.  Wait on the LORD:  be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart:  wait, I say, on the LORD.”  Psalm 27:13-14

Blessings and love,


Author: Tiffany Young

I'm an Army wife, homeschooling mom of 6, and a beautifully flawed human being. I live a very messy but very authentic life, perfected daily by the Grace and Love of Jesus. I hope you'll join my tribe as we grow together, encouraging one another to live authentically as empowered women, empowering other women.

2 thoughts on “God Said It, But Did He Really Mean It for Me… The Dangerous Mindset that Hinders Faith”

    1. Hi Maribel!
      I am so glad that you’re here. Thank you for the compliment. I do hope that you are encouraged and that God will speak to your heart. I will be praying for you today 🙂 Blessings!!!

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