Do You Know How to Make Your Husband Happy? Pray for Him!

One of the simplest ways that we, as wives, can bring good and not harm to our husbands is by praying for them

“A wife of noble character who can find?  She is worth far more than rubies.  Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.  She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”

Proverbs 31:10-12

But I know, sometimes that doesn’t really feel so simple.  Sometimes we forget to pray for them, sometimes we just don’t want to pray for them, sometimes we don’t know what to pray for them.

So I’m going to quickly address each of those issues and then jump right in and share with you the prayers that I pray daily over my husband.

  1. YOU FORGET – Me too, until I started a prayer journal.  Now I have my prayers written down in a journal that I keep on my desk.  There is not a day that goes by that I don’t go to my desk, see my journal, pick it up and spend a few minutes in prayer.  Nice and easy!
  2. YOU DON’T WANT TO – Me too.  We have our moments, our arguments, our disagreements, our fights; we don’t always feel like lovey-dovey best friends.  But, I can promise you this, its hard to stay mad at a person that you are passionately praying for every single day.  [bctt tweet=”Its hard to stay mad at a person that you are passionately praying for every single day. #PrayerChangesThings “]
  3. YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO PRAY –  Me too, until I asked God.  The list of Scriptures I’m going to share with you today are things that have developed over time as I saw a need or as God directed me to something specific.  They may or may not work for you, but my hope is that they give you a good place to start.  One thing you can be sure of is this:  Praying Scripture works!  God gave us His word because it has POWER.  Harness that power and use it to bless your husband!  [bctt tweet=”#PrayingScripture works! God gave us #HisWord because it has #POWER! “]Praying for your husband is one of the best things you can do for him. Why not take a minute and bless him right now with these simple prayers?

15 Scriptural prayers to be praying for your husband every day

For Discernment

I pray that my husband be given a discerning heart to know Your great love for him and the great plans You have for him and for our family; plans to prosper us and not to harm us, to give us hope and a future.  (Jeremiah 29:11)

For Wisdom

I pray that my husband be given the mind of Christ, that it would be saturated with Godly wisdom.  Help him to take every thought captive that is not in obedience to your Word, and in so doing, protect him from pride and temptation.  (2 Corinthians 10:5)

For Understanding

I pray that they eyes of my husband’s heart will be open to understand Your Word, so that he will not be conformed to this world; but be transformed by the renewing of his mind so that he may know Your good, acceptable, and perfect will for his life and for our marriage.  (Romans 12:2)

For Trust

I pray that You, God, will help my husband to trust You with all of his heart, not depending on his own understanding, but acknowledging you in all his ways, so that he will know what direction to lead our family in.  (Proverbs 3:5-6)

For Favor

I pray that the favor of God may rest on my husband and that You, God, will bless and establish the work of his hands and his heart.  (Psalm 90:17)

For Unity

I pray that You will help us to live together in perfect unity by loving, honoring, and respecting one another and serving each other for Your glory, honor, and praise.  (1 Thessalonians 5:13)

For Revelation

I pray that You, Father, may grant him a spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of You, by having the eyes of his heart flooded with light, so that he may know and understand both the hope to which You have called him, and how rich his inheritance is in You!  (Ephesians 1:17)

For Knowledge

I pray that he may be filled with the full, deep, and clear knowledge of Your will in all spiritual wisdom and in understanding and discernment of spiritual things.  (Colossians 1:9)

For Holiness

I pray that he may walk, live, and conduct himself in a manner worthy of You, God and that he will have a desire to please You in all things; that he will bear fruit in every good work and that he will steadily grow and increase in and by Your knowledge.  (Colossians 1:10)

For Strength

I pray that he will be invigorated and strengthened with all power, according to the might of Your power, in order to exercise every kind of endurance, patience, perseverance, and forbearance while being full of joy.  (Colossians 1:11)

For Blessings

I pray that You, God, will command Your blessing upon him, our house, our family, his office, and all that he undertakes.  (Deuteronomy 28:8)

For Refuge

I pray that he will turn to You, God, as his hiding place, knowing that You will preserve him from trouble and that you will surround him with songs and shouts of deliverance.  (Psalm 32:7)

For Humility

I pray that he will never act in vain conceit and empty arrogance, but instead act in the true spirit of humility thinking of others more highly than of himself; that he will always esteem and look upon and be concerned for not only his own interests but also for the interest of others.  (Philippians 2:3)

For Protection

I pray that he will be kept from all evil, that You will keep his life, that You will protect him going out and coming in from now until forever!  (Psalm 121:8)

For Perseverance

I pray that he will not lose heart or grow weary in doing right and that he will continue to persevere and act nobly remembering that at the proper time he will reap a harvest of blessing.  (Galatians 6:9)


 

And that’s it!

These are the short but powerful prayers that I say every day for my husband.  Praying for your husband daily will be one of the most beneficial things for your marriage, it will draw you together like nothing else can.

I hope you have been encouraged to pray for your husband every day too![bctt tweet=”Praying for your spouse will benefit your marriage and draw you together like nothing else can.”]

What do you think?  Is there anything you would add to the list?  I would love to hear it, just leave a comment!

“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”  Matthew 26:41

Blessings and love,

Tiffany

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The Day I Realized I Was A Bad Wife

“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” Proverbs 12:4

Every time I read this, I just like to assume that I fall into the noble wife category because, quite honestly, I don’t like to think of myself as “decay”.

noble wife

This particular time, though, I felt a little unsettled, and I just couldn’t get it out of my head.  I figured God must be trying to teach me something, but honestly couldn’t understand what I possibly needed to know about this particular Scripture.

I mean, I’m not a bad person, right? After all, I’m a stay-at-home-mom, I take care of four kids all day everyday.  I also homeschool them.  I cook all of the meals, clean all of the messes, do all of the laundry, and handle all of the shopping.  I volunteer, I pray, and I read my Bible…

But are those the things that God considers noble?

Well, I decided to go ahead and look into this a bit more.  So I looked it up in Webster’s Dictionary.

The word “noble” is defined as

  • having, showing, or coming from personal qualities that people admire (such as honesty, generosity, courage, etc.) 

A few other definitions are

  • possessing outstanding qualities
  • very good or excellent
  • of high birth or exalted rank

So, looking back at the Scripture with this in mind, it doesn’t really matter how much I do, what matters is the character I exhibit  

Am I going about my day-to-day life exhibiting qualities that other people admire?  Would my family say that I am “excellent” and possess “outstanding qualities”?

Well, I sure hope so.

Now, since I defined the word “noble” and wasn’t really feeling to badly about how I measured up to this Scripture, I decided to define the word “disgraceful”.  Not that I was worried…

Here’s the definition:

  • bringing or involving disgrace 

Okay, well then I guess I should look up “disgrace”.

Disgrace:  

  • to cause (someone) to feel ashamed
  • to cause (someone or something) to lose or become unworthy of respect or approval
  • to humiliate by a superior showing
  • to cause to lose favor or standing

I did not see that coming…

I almost cried when I read that definition.

I was suddenly very aware of every single time I have ever made my husband feel small, unworthy, incompetent, disrespected, belittled, and not good enough.

It was like one of those moments that people say they saw their life flash before their eyes, except what I saw was the broken look on my husband’s face…  over and over and over…

How many times have I made him feel dumb because he asks me how to spell a word?

How many times have I taken over story time with the kids because he messed it up?

How many sermons have I preached to him about how much better he should be doing?

How many times have I re-loaded the dishwasher or re-folded the towels because he did it wrong?

How many times have I blamed him when things went bad?

How many times have I nagged him to get to my never-ending “honey-do” list?

How often do I point out what he should have done?

WAY.  TOO.  MANY.

So here I am… a disgraceful wife…

I’ve been convicted of a horrible crime against my own husband

Flesh of his flesh, bone of his bone and I have grossly sinned against him

Remember that part of the Scripture that I usually avoid, “a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.”

Like decay in his bones!  So basically, my lack of good character has made him feel like his bones are rotting until they are completely gone.  I’ve made him feel like he is dying a slow death from the inside out!

(I know that’s a little dramatic, but it gets the point across, right?)

Does any of this resonate with you?  If so, there is hope my friends.  I have learned some valuable truth from this revelation and I would love to share it with yall.

5 Character Traits of a Noble Wife

  1. A noble wife repents when she is wrong (Acts 3:19 – “Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord, and that He may send the Christ, who has been appointed for you – even Jesus.”) 

    • We are all going to mess up.  What’s important is admitting when we do and then deciding to turn away from this attitude of disgrace and back towards a heart that is noble.  And guess what?  If you’re a Christian, then you are a daughter of the One True King.  Nobility is in your blood!  Tap into it girl! [bctt tweet=”A wife of #NobleCharacter #repents when she is wrong.”]
  2. A noble wife seeks forgiveness  (Matthew 5:23 – “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar.  First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.)
    • Seek forgiveness from your husband for every time you have made him feel like he is dying a slow death.
    • Seek forgiveness from God for harboring contempt against the person He united you to (whether it was intentional or not). [bctt tweet=”A wife of #NobleCharacter seeks #forgiveness.”]
  3. A noble wife submits to her husband’s authority  (1 Peter 3: 1-2 – “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.”) 
    • This is not a suppressive submission.  It doesn’t come out of fear or weakness, but instead out of respect for who God has created him to be and for the position He has placed him in as the head of your family.  This is the kind of submission that honors what your husband has to say and respects his decisions.  I AM NOT advocating that a wife has no input and that all of the decisions belong to the husband.  On the contrary, husbands and wives should work together as a team, but with that said, you’re not going to agree on every single thing.  So, in situations where you can’t agree, and the decision really matters, a noble wife will follow the Biblical outline and get in line behind her husband’s leadership, trusting in God along the way.
    • Submission is not weakness!  When done in the proper way with the proper motives, it is a really great tool that shows incredible strength.  It’s not easy to lay down your own plans and ideas and take up someone else’s.  But if you do, it will bring amazing blessings as you choose to honor God by honoring your husband. [bctt tweet=”A wife of #NobleCharacter #submits to her husband’s authority.”]
  4. A noble wife knows that true beauty comes from within  (1 Peter 3: 3-4 – “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.  Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”)
    • That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t look nice!  But looking pretty on the outside isn’t our ultimate goal.  God says the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit is of great worth!  So let’s let Him transform our hearts and mold us into the beautiful treasures He created us to be!  That’s a beauty that is timeless and will transcend and transform generations to come.  When I’m long gone, I want my legacy to be one of wisdom, grace, and love; not just, “well, she had a pretty smile and good hair…”  [bctt tweet=”A wife of #NobleCharacter knows that #TrueBeauty comes from within”]
  5. A noble wife doesn’t sweat the small stuff (1 Peter 3:6 “like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master.  You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear” and Proverbs 31:21 “When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.”) 
    • A woman after God’s heart puts her full and complete confidence in Him and Him alone.  Don’t seek your refuge in the world, instead run to Him, the lover of your soul, the healer of your heart, your protector, and your Savior.  There is no fear for those who seek shelter in Him because He doesn’t give us a spirit of fear, but instead He gives us a spirit of POWER, LOVE, AND A SOUND MIND.  As women, we really can get so wrapped up in all of the little worries that life has to offer, and then take that worry out unnecessarily on our husbands.  But a noble wife lays all of that aside and rests in the confident hope of a good God.  Put your trust in Him to make your path straight and stop worrying about of the little bumps along the way.
    • Bumps in the road will happen, and that’s okay.  I read a really amazing article not long ago by Valerie at Cord of 6, where she talks about changing your “what ifs” into “even ifs”.  It was incredibly inspiring, and totally changed my perspective about all of those bumps (and potential bumps) in the road, trusting fully in God’s plan along the way.  You will definitely be blessed by that article, be sure to check it out!  And then remember, God has a plan.  Trust in Him.  Cast your worries and anxieties on Him, do not beat your husband with them! [bctt tweet=”A wife of #NobleCharacter doesn’t sweat the small stuff.”]

 Conviction is never easy

But it is necessary because it produces growth.

I have bared a dark part of my heart today in the hope that it will give someone the strength to rise up from the ashes and be transformed by God.

If you find that you too have been a disgraceful wife, rest assured that God will rescue you, deliver you, and transform you!


 

If you don’t know Jesus, I invite you right now to say a prayer and invite Him into your heart.  Becoming a Godly wife requires God, none of us can do it on our own.  But the great news is that He has already promised to lead and guide us through this thing called life by transforming our hearts so that we can become that beautiful treasure.  Just say this prayer to invite Him in…

“Dear God, I know that I have sinned and fallen short of your glory.  But right now, I choose to turn away from sin and turn to you.  I believe that Jesus is your Son, I believe that He died and rose again, and right now I ask Him to come into my heart, to be the Lord and Leader of my life, and my forever best friend.  Thank you God, for making me whole, for making me new.  In Jesus’ Name, Amen!”

If you prayed that prayer today, I would love to hear about it.  You can send in a praise report anytime using the form on the Prayer Request page.


 

 Now, dear friend, go show the world just how beautiful you are

“A wife of noble character who can find?  

She is worth far more than rubies.  Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.  

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”  

Proverbs 31:10-12

Blessings and love,

Tiffany

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